Confidence Issue: The Bella Edit – Belinda Nash
I first met Belinda at a product launch and was immediately attracted to her energy and her ability to light up the entire room. From attending Fashion Week with her, numerous vinos and dress up sessions, she is always an amazing sound board and an incredible inspiration not only with her work ethic but her ability to love herself that I think we can all work on.
Who is Belinda Nash?
Hi! My name is Belinda, and I’m a freelance writer, blogger and a new fashion and beauty editor for Express mag on a mission to inspire guys, gals and everyone in between to be the best they can be. As for who I am I’m yet to uncover that mystery! I am always learning, growing and changing and I am more pleased every day with what I discover about myself. I genuinely love me… and it’s been a long time coming!!
What does confidence mean to you and how do you approach this in your everyday life?
This is an interesting one. Intrinsically, I think we like to belong and to help each other, so recently I joined six other women on a rape campaign here during Rape Awareness Week. Not only did the campaign make the Daily Mail in the UK, but I was able to talk on The Project, The Rock and a two hour session on Newstalk ZB to share my personal story about being raped, and more importantly, share my diagnosis of PTSD and how I worked through it with a therapist and a psychologist to come out the other end. Yay!
What empowers you as a woman?
So many things!! Most importantly, I love having achieved so well in education. I have a couple of degrees, a few diplomas, a post graduate diploma, and a Master of Philosophy degree with first class honours. I value intelligence and academia so much, particularly as for so many women in the world, getting an education remains out of their reach. The other important thing is I know that I am a kind person. I’m not mean, judgmental or hurtful to people. I don’t put people down, and I am not divisive in my character. If people dislike me, I know it’s their problem not mine because I know I haven’t been an arsehole to them! I mostly feel sorry for people who behave badly towards others. They lack the big picture.
What knocks your confidence down and how do you deal with that?
Duplicity. People who present one personality but are actually cruelly intentioned and manipulative deserve no place in my world. I have experienced this a few times, and it has battered my confidence. But I am extremely proud and happy to say that I am so very done with these people. I find them pointless and ridiculous, and their actions against me and opinions of me don’t matter one bit. It’s taken a lot of work to get here, but it makes me smile at how utterly pathetic they are (in the pathos sense, not in the I’m being mean, sense, so: “miserably inadequate”). It actually makes me laugh to myself now thinking that they think I care, or that I don’t know what game they’re playing. Laughter is the best medicine!
How has confidence helped with the running nzgirl and starting The Bella Edit?
It’s been amazing! I’ve had the opportunity to go to so many incredible events, and interview and meet some outstanding people, and this fuels me. Talented, authentic people totally spin my wheels, and I have met too many to mention! I need to put a rocket up The Bella Edit though, because I have so many ideas and well… not enough time. But in doing nzgirl, I have shared so much of myself and that in itself is empowering because I’ve had to really think about life in possibly more detail than others have had the opportunity to do. And through sharing my real self, I’ve allowed others to hopefully realise it’s OK to be imperfectly perfect (or is it perfectly imperfect?). It’s OK to be vulnerable, to be sensitive, to care and to not be cookie-cutter magazine model perfect.
What advice would you give our customers about self confidence and believing in themselves, embracing themselves for who they really are?
Believing in yourself is a must. I believe in my intelligence, my talent and my unique view of the world (and we all have this!!!). But I’ll be honest, embracing myself for who I really am is a double-edged sword. On one hand, I love being a bit weird, but on the other hand I sometimes think life would be so much easier being mainstream, yunno? But I need to be in a job that I feel passionate about and if I don’t, then I feel myself wither away. A cubicle sitting under fluoro lights and having meetings about meetings just isn’t me. But some days I just wish I could care less (and earn more)… but then I just wouldn’t be me. So for yourselves, just work out who you are, accept you and love you just the way you are, then anything else will be a bonus. And most importantly, surround yourself with the people who love and support you just the way you are – as completely and wonderfully you. In a world where we’re overloaded with picture perfect lives, remember that ultimately, all we want is to love and be loved, because that’s all that really matters.
What piece of clothing makes you feel confident to take on the world?
I LOVE leather jackets, especially biker jackets. They make me feel kickass! I have lost too many of them (grrrrr!) but I have replaced them and still have some oldies-but-goodies that I love, including an ‘80s biker jacket that is too retro for words. My new fave is from Urbancode London and it slaaaaays – you can see a tiny sneak peek here! I wish I could afford more of them and just wear jackets; jackets make an outfit in autumn and winter!
What women inspire you?
Oh wow… So many. Helen Clark for for being bold, brave and honest, and standing tall in a man’s world. I also want to be Iris Apfel when I grow up – that woman is a style bawse! Laura Daniel and Kimberley Crossman for being funny, intelligent, beautiful and all round badass. My mum for adopting me. My sister because she’s an A&E nurse and is just kickass, frickin amazing!!! My sister-in-laws for being so bloody kind and wise. My three best girlfriends who have been my rocks over these changing times – they know me better than I know myself and every day give me the courage to wake up and show up each day. And yep, I talk to them (almost) every day!! They’re my cheerleading crew and I wanna kiss their faces!!!!
What’s your favourite piece out of The Borrowed Collective and why?
Ashleigh has SUCH good taste, I just cannot!!! I love her Zimmerman and Talulah picks, and nothing beats a cute Jumpsuit, but this Mon Cheri Midi Dress is sooooo frickin’ adorable… I must have!!!
You can see Belinda pictured below in our Mon Cheri.
Thanks lovely lady xx